Imagine you’re having one of those rare golden days.
You feel a lightness in your heart.
A peace that seems God-given.
And a sense that today is going to be filled with goodness.
But then, you run into someone from your past.
And the memory of a long-forgotten pain takes a seat in your mind like an uninvited guest
You suddenly find yourself half in the present.
Half in the past.
This old wound has once again become a barrier between you and the God-given peace you long for.
It’s a bit like dealing with sticky labels on jars.
No matter how hard you try to scrape them off, they just stick to everything.
The unease of unresolved feelings clings to your moments of joy and sneaks into your everyday routine.
Slowly, it makes even the best experiences feel a little less bright.
It becomes a presence, an entity, clouding your sunny day.
You try to bury it again, but it sticks to everything you touch.
Because burial is not erasure.
It is simply postponement.
It actually wasn’t even buried.
It was just hiding in the shadows.
Waiting to pounce and shatter your hard-won peace.
You thought you had forgiven them.
You thought you had let it go.
But why is it still so sticky and clinging to your heart?
My close friend and mentor, Suzy Graham, told me something about the stickiness of old wounds that would forever change my perspective.
Jill, it’s very difficult to stay resentful towards someone when you pray for them.
At the time, the idea seemed almost counterintuitive.
Perhaps even unattainable.
Yet, as I began to whisper short prayers anytime they came to my mind, a transformation unfolded within me.
I started to see the person not just as the source of hurt but as someone loved unconditionally by God.
Someone flawed, just like me, with the same need for grace and forgiveness.
It didn’t just change my perspective; little by little, it transformed my heart.
You may be saying, But wait, Jill, I don’t want to let go of anything until I get an apology.
I need to see some remorse before I can move forward, much less pray for them.
Trust me, I get it. I do!
Praying for them doesn’t justify what they did to you..
It is simply saying you can no longer carry this weight.
Start with a small, sticky spot of resentment.
Whisper a simple prayer for someone who has wronged you.
It doesn’t have to be elaborate.
I’ve learned that it’s not necessarily always about changing them.
It’s about changing us.
It’s about what happens in our own hearts.
Transforming bitterness into compassion.
It’s as if we’ve been walking through a maze and suddenly find an exit.
Where there was once frustration and anger, now there’s a clear way forward.
Praying for the sticky people in your life will bring new freedom.
The kind that breathes life back into your soul.
It’s like applying Goo Gone to the stubborn residues of the past.
Helping to release the toxic hold that resentment has had on your life.
And then you can watch as God turns your prayers into a bridge from bitterness to a beautiful breakthrough.